Alvin’s Weblog

Yes, I have gone into exile. No, not from the world but from the world of MSN that is. I just cannot bear being there and not chatting with that someone. Sometimes, I am filled with remorse for not doing something only to later let someone else do it first. Then again, that has been done and over with. This is probably my last post for now until I return to civilization.

As I am writing this, I am thinking and analyzing the very existence of me in this world. I am popping questions to myself every so often. Questions that challenge me intellectually for answers. Until I can think straight and find answers to my questions, I’ll remain in exile.

Anyway, I was chatting with a friend of mine not too long ago and I popped a question to her, asking, “What are your requisites for a guy to become your boyfriend material”. Hell, she gave me one whole list of requirements that made me go O_o. Anyway, I sort of replied each and every question but for the general public, I’ll restructure my answers somewhat. Of course, I’ll also strike out some questions not relevant to the general public.

Anyway, here goes:

1) Must be 175cm(or whatever measurement you prefer) tall

Sorry people, yes it’s ideal for guys to be that tall, but I believe when it comes to really liking a person, you’d be too blind to even notice he is shorter than that. I am personally shorter than that, but not by much. I am still generally taller than most girls anyway, but I don’t give a damn anyway.

2) Must be matured

I notice a lot of girls like matured guys and I acknowledge that. Then again, maturity is a very subjective matter and it depends on the maturity of the girl as well. You don’t and you can’t expect me to treat immature girls with maturity, do you?

3) Drives nice car

Now, I know a lot of girls will beg to differ on this matter but really, in almost every girl, there is always a desire for their hunks to drive nice cars. They might not know jack about cars but in Malaysia, this will always hold true until some miracle happens, Nice car = Loaded. PERIOD!

4) Older than me

This is generally the case but in this 21st century, this older than me thing does not really hold anymore. I can be younger than you by a year or two but really, what does it matter? I mean, we love each other not due to our age, is it? We love each other for who we are.

5) Must be a gentleman

Yes, every girl wants a gentleman. Girls who disagree, don’t talk. Wait till you get one that is not a gentleman and gets bashed up for no apparent reason, then you come and talk to me. Thank you. So am I a gentleman? That depends on what type of girl I am with. If the girl wants me to be “cho” then I’ll be “cho”. If she wants me to be gentle, I can too.
6) Must be crazy about me

Again, this depends on how deep I love a girl. If she is the one, then I’ll be crazy over her. Hell, I’ll even sacrifice for her. Then again, if she isn’t the one, there cannot be any crazy feelings. No one can force it.

7) Accept me for who I am

Yes, I’ll accept my girl for who she is. Afterall, if I wouldn’t, then I wouldn’t have chosen her, to begin with. Then again, to a certain extend, I believe both parties can always change for the better. It’s not about accepting people for who they are, but rather some changes done to make things better, get the drill?

8 ) Love me unconditionally

If I were to love a girl conditionally, then it wouldn’t be true love I suppose. Unconditional love can only be given if the girl can fully understand me and love me unconditionally as well. Unconditional love can only be showered upon a girl who does not conflict with me unnecessarily. Then again, unconditional love is very subjective. Some girls are happy with the love showered upon them and some expects more. The guy might have already showered all his love but the girl finds it not enough and this leads to NOT loving her unconditionally.

9) Can cook very well

They say, the way to a girls heart is through her mouth. I reckon not all girls will need their guys to cook very well. Rather, they prefer guys who would serve and pamper them with meals once in a while. Bad taste isn’t an issue here as the love would make the food taste better than anything a good chef can prepare anyway.

10) Sense of humour

This is like the umpteenth time I have heard this. Almost every single girl I know of emphasizes on this point. I have to agree that this is really important. Humour is always an essence in everything. Without humour, everything just turns wrong and sour. So yes, I do have a good sense of humour, when I am in the mood though, but when I am not, don’t expect me to humour with you 24/7.

11) Good family background

Yes, this is an added bonus. A good family is always something good. You get no additional burden and pressure from family members. I would like to think of my family as quite a good one. I have no comments but you’ll see when you meet them.
12) Not possessive

This is also very subjective. Different girls view possessiveness differently. Guys might come as being possessive to some girls but really, sometimes, the intention is only to check on her security and safety. Of course, to a certain extend, it feels more like insecurity rather than caring. So, I really don’t know if I’ll turn out to be a possessive guy to girls.
13) Non-smoker, non-alchoholic, non-gambler

I have to say, I do smoke occasionally. I am not a hardcore smoker though. I just smoke for the thrill of it. I am willing to not smoke all together, even socially, if that is what it takes for things to work out with me and my girl. READ “smoke occasionally”. So don’t give me comments like, “You smoking bastard.” I control when I smoke and don’t. In fact, I don’t smoke when I mingle with friends who do not smoke. Yes, I can do that! So I am no hardcore smoker.

I am also a social drinker and I drink if there is any occasion that calls for it or due to socializing reasons. I drink but I still know what I am doing. Drinking till you drop is never a good idea. Other than that, I don’t normally drink at home.

I am also a gambler when I go to Genting and come Chinese New Year. Other than that, no gambling, thank you. There is always a limit to everything. So long as you can distinguish the right and the wrong, it shouldn’t be a problem. Of course, I do not gamble away my house, wife and children. I am just not that type of person.

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Yeap, that’s the end of it. It’s my turn to list my requirements for girls to be girlfriend material but not in this post. It will be in the near future.

All that being said, Happy Chinese New Year people!! Have a great and prosperous year ahead and may your business or whatever you are doing blossom! Take care people, I am off to exile land again. Bye…