Love Is Blind
Nov 11th, 2006 by Alvin Chong
Ever thought of what love actually is? Speaking of which, how do we define love? I have no idea, you tell me. In an attempt to define what love is, I’d define it as a feeling where you are willing to sacrifice and also give up everything for the one person whom you care and concern so dearly you’d even give up your life just for that person. Love is also a feeling that brings out other feelings in you giving you the power to do what it is you want to do.
That being said, a lot of so called “love” in this world isn’t exactly love. I can see a trend in humankind which distinguishes whether a person has just fallen in love or whether a couple has been together for quite sometime. Pretty easy to distinguish if you ask me. A rule of thumb is that if a person just fell in love, he/she would be all excited about it and doing all those romantic little stuff like opening the door for the girl (being a gentleman), sharing an umbrella together when it rains, smiling lovingly at each other, holding hands, etc. It is when they grow fond of each other that the feeling of love starts to fade. Each of them open their own doors, each person has their own umbrellas, no longer smiling lovingly at each other and no longer holding hands.
See, love is blind because when you’re in love, it doesn’t matter what the world says to you, because to you, he/she IS THE WORLD. Even when your friends tell you she is FUGLY, you’d say otherwise and claim that she is the most beautiful girl you have ever seen. Of course I can understand that beauty is in the beholder of the eyes but hey, if 80% of the world is saying he/she is FUGLY, then she probably is. It’s not only physically but emotionally as well. He/she might have a bad attitude but we sometimes just don’t see it because we choose not to, only to realize later on.
Of course I do have friends who tell me, “I’ll never fall for him/her. It’s just impossible. He/she is so short/tall, bad habits, younger/older than me, yada yada yada”. The next thing you know, they are together. That is why, never speak of the devil. When you ask why have they fallen for each other, they’d tell you they don’t know. Yeap, there is no explanation for this phenomenon and hence I classify it as being blinded when you are in love.
It’s also a feeling that would encourage you to do stupid/wise decisions. Something you wouldn’t say or do under normal circumstances, you’d do it when you’re in love. It’s amazing what the power of love can do to all of us. Of course some of us have this very open understanding of love, claiming that “Love is not selfish, love is selfless, if you love him/her, let him/her go. If he/she comes back, then he/she is yours. If you love him/her, you should be happy for him/her.” It’s logical, but easier said than done. How many of us can do that? I’d like to think that only a minority of earth’s population can.
Anyway, this is just a share of my thought on this issue. I am just so stressed up nowadays. No, don’t ask me how am I feeling. I am just feeling normal and stressed, and no, there is no feeling of love. I cannot feel it yet with anyone. Let’s see if time will change this. I could use some love to neutralize the stress I am going through now. For that, I’d like to thank my family and friends for always being there for me when I need them the most.
