Alvin’s Weblog

I went to One Utama yesterday evening and I saw this very usual but quite often ignored scene. There was this Bio Essence product showcase being held and a mom was busy inquiring about the product when this son of hers was taking off his slippers and playing with it. Upon seeing it, she started scolding the boy and twisting his ears like it was some kinda toy. The boy being scolded shied to his father only to be given a thumb’s up, in approval of his mother’s action.

I sometimes wonder if I was also like that when I was young. Either the parents are not educating their child properly or children nowadays just seem to annoy the hell out of their parents. A minute later, the daughter of the said mother came along. The father, not wanting his daughter to annoy her mother, quickly yelled for his daughter to come over. The rebellious daughter was showing signs of disapproval, showing that monkey face that everyone of us does when we just wanna annoy the hell outta someone.

I smile thinking how I would look like if I was the one showing the monkey face. Sometimes, I can understand how a child feels when he/she is not having enough attention. As a child, I wouldn’t say I wasn’t getting any attention from my parents but I am not getting as much since I have working parents. Nonetheless, thanks to them, I am now who I am, a guy, with a Bachelor degree, working as a useful person in the society. For that, I am giving all my thanks to my parents for bringing me up properly and teaching me valuable lessons in life. Without them, I wouldn’t have gone this far.

This got me thinking, why is it that some children are very rebellious and some aren’t. Don’t get me wrong, I personally think I am also one of those rebellious kinda children as I have my own point of view and stand. If I disagree, I disagree and it doesn’t matter if it has anything to do with my parents.

Probably, it’s due to lack of communication among the parent and the children. Authoritative policy might be in place and the children have no say in anything, which in my humble opinion is quite frustrating at times. Now, I personally think, in order to tackle the issue at the root, the parents should sit down and have a good pep talk with their children. Give them a chance to voice out and explain things. By understanding their situation, parents are able to better provide and suit their children’s needs. By that, I don’t mean to say parents should listen and give in to every of their children’s demands. All I am saying is, give where possible and provide order where needed.

Instill good practices within the house hold so that children will grow up to be useful in the society. Remember that charity starts from home. Provide your child with a proper communication channel and encourage voicing out of opinions and troubles. More often than not, teenagers tend to get involve in drugs as they lack proper information and advice. Research has shown that it is due to curiosity that they are involved in drugs. With that natural curiosity and the lack of proper information, they lead themselves to the dark side. Read, PROPER COMMUNICATION CHANNELS.

All that being said, I know it’s not easy being a parent although I am not one. Having to juggle work and household is never an easy task. All I am saying is, it’s possible to provide for a better family. Most of us already know but just don’t realize. We tend to get frustrated faster than our mind can start thinking rationally. So, inculcate this nature of thinking before acting, it might just help. Right, easier said than done. LOL. Anyway, that’s all for now and I’ll see ya soon. Cheers!